As a librarian and an avid book love, I have always wanted to write. (Doesn't everone?) As a 22 year old newlywed I have always wondered why my veiws on marriage are different from what I hear from everyone else. So here is my first blog entry:
When I got engaged almost two years ago, I was given a lot of advice. People would tell me things like,
"Learn to cook good food for him!"
"Never go to bed angry!!"
"Don't expect marriage to fix all your problems!!"
Or, my personal favorite,
" Why would you want to get married so young? You have freedom now, once you're married you won't."
And,
"Well I wish you luck, most people who marry young end up getting divorce."
It makes me wonder if all the married people telling me these things are actually in love with their spouses. I have also wondered if maybe I'm just different. I still havn't reached a conclusion on the subject.
I do know that although I think I am a fairly good cook, I burnt everything I put in the oven for the first two months of marriage. I had never had that happen to me before I was married, I think it's just something that happens when you're a new wife, no matter how good of a cook you are. I watched Julie and Julia, so I know that even Julia Child's wasn't a good cook when she first got married.
I also know that my wonderful husband has spent just as much time learning to cook for me as I have for him. And that we could eat pizza every night and still be just as happy with our marriage.
I also know that sometimes, you just have to go to bed angry. If it's one in the morning and you're arguing about the fact that he forgot you liked ketchup with your fries, and you have been for the last five hours, JUST GO TO BED!! It doesn't matter how angry you are abou the stupid ketchup and how much you think it's a good reason for a divorce, when you wake up, you will be happy that you got some sleep, and you will have completely forgotten why you were angry in the first place. Especially when you remember that even though he forgot you wanted the ketchup he did go and get it for you when you asked.
And yes, marriage does fix problems. No not all of them, and yes it does cause more than it fixes, but you know what? I now live with my best friend. I have someone to talk to me when I'm upset. Talking over the phone could never replave getting a hug when I had a bad day at work.
As for those who think we married too young, we plan on spending the rest of our lives proving you wrong.
